Marriage, couple and relationship counselling / psychotherapy in Alfold, Cranleigh and Online relationship counselling. Couple counselling Surrey. Online couple therapy. Affairs and Betrayal relationship repair. Relationship Distress West Sussex.
Chances are you are feeling unhappy and unfulfilled in your relationship which is why you have found yourself on this page. The great thing; you have decided to do something about your unhappiness and unfulfillment so let us get you the support you need.
Through taking action and making a few changes you absolutely can create a different relationship for yourselves moving forward.
The Times reported on 23 September 2016: -
"The number of people living in deeply unhappy relationships has doubled in less than five years. More than a million people say they are miserable with their spouse or longterm partner, according to an analysis of official wellbeing figures released by the Office for National Statistics (ONS) yesterday."
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What couple counselling offers is a space to shine a light on your relationship and to see what has happened along your relationship journey to have you in a place of dis-contentment from, what started out as, love.
Chances are you are feeling unhappy with the quality of your relationship yet relieved to be reaching out and to be ready, or getting ready, to take action because you want your relationship to be different.
It is easy to be nice, warm and loving when you first fall in love yet humanness comes out and imperfections, flaws, fallibility, defenses, etc. start to show up as you realise you are different which has an impact on the quality of your relationship.
In many ways couple counselling is more vulnerable than individual counselling as there is a lack of control over what a partner may say and, by its very nature, it can be unpredictable. YET it is a safe place for each person to tell their own story, be heard and for each person's perspective to be honoured and worked with.
Renowned couple's therapist Esther Perel states that "Most people are going to have two or three marriages or committed relationships in their adult life. Some of us will have them with the same person" so this can be you........
Generally it will fall into 3 categories: -
1. For change, growth, development and to stay in your current relationship.
2. You are deliberating 'should we stay together or separate'.
3. You have decided to separate and want to work on leaving the relationship in as healthier way as possible.
(please note, if options 1 or 2 then we can work together; if option 3 then I am not the counsellor for you as I do not do separation only work)
Couple counselling is when the relationship, dynamics, difficulties, past and future are all in focus; couple counselling centres on the relationship rather than the individuals and is about the impact on the relationship of the individuals.
Struggles does not mean you are flawed or have something wrong with you; it means you are two individuals with individual wants, needs, desires, life experience, value systems, etc. coming together and challenging one another in the relationship you are co-creating.
Couple counselling work is about developing you both individually and interdependently.
Note: Couple counselling can be challenging and hard work yet the prize has to be held in mind; a happier, more contented and fulfilling relationship (and life!) for you both.
1. Understand your goals and what you both want to achieve through counselling.
2. Manage conflict, shed light on your cycles / defenses.
3. Repair past and present wounds.
4. Focus on your relationship offering a neutral perspective.
5. Tentatively challenge ill-effective behaviours and cycles.
6. Be empathic helping each of you to name feelings experienced.
7. Find a 'win win' for difference.
8. Be decisive, insightful and help sustain positive momentum.
9. Encourage new roles, new ways of being and new responsibilities in the relationship.
10. Reflect on, champion and prize growth.
Prior to your first session I will have emailed you pre-assessment forms to be completed (and emailed back at least 48 hours prior to your first appointment) which give me background information on each of you so that your first session can be conducted in the here-and-now. For this pre-assessment work and initial 60 minute session the fee is reduced to £40.
Moving forwards: -
60 minute face to face session in Alfold - £80
Online 60 minute session - £80.
Each additional 30 minutes. subject to availability, is charged at £30.
Low-cost daytime appointments available at a reduced rate of £75 (please mention when enquiring).
Contact from website
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Call 07941 305511
If I am unable to answer please leave a brief message informing me of your enquiry along with your name, telephone number and when it is a good time for me to call you back.
Please note:- If your number is not familiar to me, and you do not leave a message, I will not call you back as I am aware this could be dangerous without knowing your individual situation.
My answering machine is confidential and your message will only be listened to by me.
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Text 07941 305511 to make an appointment.
If I am in an appointment I may not be able to answer you straight away yet I will get back to you as soon as I am able to.
Not ready yet?
If you feel you are not quite ready to commit to an appointment please feel free to message me. I have been where you are now and I am happy to help with your transition.
Gandhi stated "nobody can hurt me without my permission" and through our sessions you will discover that it is your own expectations and experience that causes hurt and not your partner.
KATE HEAVEY BA (Hons) BACP (Accredited)
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