Marriage psychotherapy Ripley, Woking. Relationship and marriage guidance Alfold, Cranleigh. Online relationship counselling. Couple counselling Surrey. Online couple therapy. Affairs and Betrayal relationship repair. Relationship Distress West Sussex.
Chances are you are feeling unhappy and unfulfilled in your relationship which is why you are here yet, awesome, you have decided to get yourselves some support. By taking action and making a few changes you absolutely can create a different relationship for yourselves moving forward.
The Times reported on 23 September 2016: -
"The number of people living in deeply unhappy relationships has doubled in less than five years. More than a million people say they are miserable with their spouse or longterm partner, according to an analysis of official wellbeing figures released by the Office for National Statistics (ONS) yesterday."
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Chances are you are feeling unhappy with the quality of your relationship yet relieved to be reaching out and to be ready, or getting ready, to take action because you want your relationship to be different.
It is easy to be nice, warm and loving when you first fall in love yet then humanness comes out and imperfections, flaws, fallibility, defences, etc. start to show up as you realise we are all human and this can have a big impact on relationship.
In many ways couple counselling is more vulnerable than individual counselling as there is a lack of control over what a partner may say and, by its very nature, it can be unpredictable. YET it is still a safe place for each person to tell their own story, be heard and for each person's perspective to be honoured.
Generally it will fall into 3 categories: -
1. For change, growth, development and to stay in your current relationship.
2. You are deliberating 'should we stay together or separate'.
3. You have decided to separate and want to work on leaving the relationship in as healthier way as possible.
(please note, if options 1 or 2 then we can work togther; if option 3 then I am not the counsellor for you as I do not do separation only work)
Couple counselling is when the relationship, dynamics, difficulties, past and future are all in focus; couple counselling centres on the relationship rather than the individuals and is about the effect on the relationship of the individuals.
Struggles does not mean you are flawed or have something wrong with you; it means you are two individuals with individual wants, needs, desires, life experience, value systems, etc. coming together and challenging one another.
In couple counselling it is about you doing the work as, sadly, I am not able to wave a magic wand. It is about you developing individually and also together.
Note: Couple counselling can be challenging and hard work yet the prize has to be held in mind; a happier, more exciting and fulfilling relationship (and life!) for you both.
1. Understand your issues and what you both want to achieve through counselling.
2. Manage conflict, shed light on your cycles and repair past and present wounds.
3. Focus on your relationship offering a neutral perspective.
4. Tentatively challenge ill-effective behaviours and cycles.
5. Be empathic helping each of you to name feelings experienced.
6. Find a 'win win' for difference.
7. Be decisive, insightful and help sustain positive momentum.
8. Encourage new roles, new ways of being and new responsibilities in the relationship.
9. Reflect on, champion and prize growth.
Prior to your first session I will have emailed you pre-assessment forms to be completed (and emailed back at least 48 hours prior to your first appointment) which give me background information on each of you so that your first session can be conducted in the here-and-now. For this pre-assessment work and initial 60 minute session the fee is reduced to £30.
Moving forwards: -
60 minute face to face session in Ripley or Alfold - £75
Online 50 minute session - £70.
Each additional 30 minutes. subject to availability, is charged at £30.
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Not ready yet?
If you feel you are not quite ready to commit to an appointment please feel free to message me. I have been where you are now and am happy to help with your transition.
Gandhi stated "nobody can hurt me without my permission" and through our sessions you will discover that it is your own expectations and experience that causes hurt and not your partner.
KATE HEAVEY BA (Hons) BACP (Accredited) - COUNSELLOR IN WOKING PROVIDING COUNSELLING IN RIPLEY AND PSYCHOTHERAPY NEAR GUILDFORD, SURREY.