Kate Heavey BA (Hons) BACP Accredited - Couple / marriage and individual counselling based in Alfold, near Cranleigh. In person, online and telephone. Loss and bereavement therapy in Surrey. Supporting alcohol dependency issues. Couples counsellor near Billingshurst. Marriage guidance psychotherapist close to Horsham. A face to face, Zoom and telephone therapist.
Welcome to my website which I hope will give you an idea of how I work.
I am qualified to work with individuals, couples and two's and I am very passionate about my work believing change is available to all.
My belief is that we are all born as our authentic self and we are then conditioned in the environments we live in. What this means is, as children, we 'adapt' learning behaviours / defenses to help us survive and ease our discomfort. These learnt survival stratagies can then become problematic later in life as they form the basis of thoughts, feelings and behaviours, about oneself, relationship and about the world we live in.
What is important to know is that what is learnt can be unlearnt if you want to.
Current availability
**Update 30 June 2025**
I have the following weekly appointment times available:-
Face to face, online or telephone - Tuesday 12.30pm.
Online / telephone only - Monday 2.30pm.
Please contact me if one of these weekly times work for you.
Benefits of counselling
- Increased self-awareness, self-esteem, self-confidence, self-expression and self-compassion
- Insights into patterns empowering change and promoting choice
- Improved and re-aligned relationships
- Worked through feelings after infidelity, betrayal and affairs
- New opportunities
- Altered outlook / life-perspective
- Recovery from alcoholism and binge eating disorder
- Insight into stress and unhealthy anxiety
- Choosing assertive communication over passive/aggressive
- Ability to manage unpleasant and challenging emotions, i.e. anger, rage, shame and guilt
- Healthier ways of relating / living for you
- Healing abuse, trauma and shame
- Understanding of the brain, attachment and neuroscience
- Being able to continue bonds after a bereavement, death or loss
- Voicing your own needs
- Awareness of how your past, and attachment style, inform you.
A further benefit of private practice counselling is that, whatever the reason for you seeking therapy, our sessions are confidential and separate away from your everyday life and no-one else is informed (and nothing goes on your doctor records either).
Couple, Relationship, Marriage Guidance and Two's Counselling and Psychotherapy
When you are in healthy secure relationships you are more connected with yourself and others whether this is a partner, parents, in-laws, children, siblings, steps, friends or work colleagues. Relationship counselling is about all 'two's' and is not just for your most intimate relationship.
Reasons for considering therapy can include: -
- Lack of communication skills, i.e., arguments, feeling unheard, struggling to accept difference
- Built-up resentment replaying old hurts with an inability to repair
- Unresolved past baggage being triggered, i.e. trauma, abuse, jealousy, envy, shame, blame, mistrust
- Lack of intimacy / sex life / desire
- Self-loathing and self-criticalness of yourself (or of one another!)
- Betrayal, affairs, infidelity leading
- Distrust / mistrust
- Commitment issues
- Loss or bereavement, i.e. death, miscarriage, ill-health, redundancy
- Impact of becoming parents, i.e. loss of independence, inequality, loneliness,isolation
- Family squabbles, fall outs and estrangement
- Impact of childhood adversity / learnt patterns
- Addiction / substance abuse affecting relationship (i.e. alcohol, food, mobiles, porn)
- Learnt survival techniques (fight, flight, freeze, fawn, friend, flop) causing relational conflict
- Pre-marriage therapy (or newly married)
- Contemplation of separation or divorce.
Individual Counselling and Psychotherapy
There are many reasons you may find yourself here. What is known is that you are currently unhappy and unfulfilled and looking for some support for yourself. Therapy offers this and I can provide assistance talking through your reason which may include: -
- A life-changing event, e.g. bereavement, abuse, rape, redundancy, divorce, etc.
- Anxiety and being crippled with worry
- Increased alcohol use concerns
- An unhealthy relationship with food
- Feeling unhappy, unfulfilled or stuck that life is going no-where
- Increase in unpleasant feelings such as anger, frustration, stress, sensitivity or confusion
- Isolation, loneliness, sad and hopeless feelings
- Feeling unheard and misunderstood
- Childhood adversity experiences such as neglect, trauma and shame
- Family estrangement
- Feelings of abandonment, rejection, powerlessness or helplessness
- Talking through the impact and consequences of choices you have made (or are about to make)
- Concerns around your mental health decline
- ....a.n.other reason in a setting away from your day to day life.
A question you may ask yourself;-
Am I good enough?
My answer: You absolutely are as we are all good enough and that includes YOU
Online and Telephone Counselling
Individual, couple and marriage online counselling via Zoom, Skype and Signal. Marriage guidance psychotherapy online. Online tele-therapy / phone counselling for individuals.
I qualified in 2014 and from the start I have offered face to face, online and telephone counselling. Originally online psychotherapy was Skype and now it is more Zoom based with a small amount being Skype, WhatsApp and Signal. Teletherapy remains popular.
Online and telephone therapy is an effective way of counselling due to home commitments, location or just simply because people are wanting therapy from the comfort of their home.
My caseload invariably includes diverse places across the UK due to my private practice and EAP work.
Single-Session Therapy
Online Single-Session Therapy for Individuals, Couples and Two's. Telephone Single-Session Therapy for Individuals.
If there is one issue that you feel an hours' therapy session would help you focus on rather than commiting to weekly sessions, or if your lifestyle stops you from being able to attend weekly therapy, then Single-Session Therapy could be for you.
Single-Session Therapy can give insight by creating a focus.
My starting question of any Single-Session Therapy session will always be ‘what would you like to have achieved by the end of the session?’
Your session is then conducted in a similar way to continual sessions, i.e. if we discuss psycho-education, such as communication skills or grief models, I will email these to you after your session has ended.
Your Single-Session Therapy hour provides space for exploration, reflection, digestion of your learning and discussion of any actions you can take going forward.
Click here to book Single-Session Therapy (if all days show 'closed' then it means I am fully booked for next week).
Artifical Intelligence Free Counselling Zone
Human Face to Face Counselling for Individuals, Couples and Two's
With isolation escalating, and the reliance of computers disabling social skills, for some the thought of sitting in an office face to face can seem daunting, or it may seem too personal, having got used to interacting with Bots and through the window of your computer (a 'benefit' of Covid).
I offer the option of human to human face to face counselling on the Surrey / West Sussex border. Offering a way to heal in relationship knowing that you can bring your behaviours, feelings and thoughts to a co-created relationship where our aim is for you to heal and lead a more contented life, whether as an individual or two.
Being AI free, we will meet as two (or three) fallible human beings with our own subjective life experiences informing us. Of course, this may initially bring a slight anxiety to your counselling journey yet, knowing that we are born for human interactions, I am sure you will start to feel more relaxed in your sessions in no time at all.
Who I work with
I work with men and women on an individual, couple and two basis.
I have extensive experience in a wide spectrum of issues including:-
- Relationship issues, i.e. communication, co-dependency, co-ercive control, bickering (more info)
- Couple work / marriage guidance, i.e. affairs, infidelity, betrayals, trust issues, discussing difference, arguments
- Alcohol addiction / alcohol dependency / alcoholism (more info)
- Binge eating disorder
- Bereavement, grief and loss including death, separation, divorce, pet or childhood (more info)
- Mental health issues including anxiety, social anxiety, fear, depression and low mood
- Work issues including assertiveness, stress, anxiety, fear of failure, not good enough, etc.
- Exploring a potential job or career change
- Family issues, i.e. parents, siblings, clash of personalities, steps or estrangement
- Life events and transitions, i.e. leaving home, mid-life crisis, retirement or moving house
- Loss / change of purpose
- Low self-esteem, low self-confidence, low self-worth with low self-acceptance
- Trauma and abuse whether this is childhood, sexual, emotional, physical or verbal
- Feelings of shame, helplessness, loss, rage, anger, etc.
- Anger expression (often referred to as 'anger management')
- Terminal illness diagnosis - patients and carers
- Feelings of not being enough, etc.
Being diagnosed with a label and finding a condition that accurately matches your experience, whether internally or externally, can help something shift inside you and bring understanding and awareness yet I truly believe that each person is so much more than a label; you are unique, special and different. Counselling offers a way for you to embrace your uniqueness and individuality.
Cost
Counselling and psychotherapy is a very personal experience. As such I feel it is important for you to find the right counsellor and therapist for you and that is why I offer the first session complimentary for individuals and just £50 for couples (due to pre-assessment work).
Session prices thereafter: -
Individual - 60 minutes - £65
Couple - 60 minutes - £85
Trainee Counsellors - 60 minute - £50 (training is integrative; Clarkson 5 Relational)
Low-cost daytime appointments at a reduced rate (£60 individuals, £80 couples) - please ask when enquiring.
Recognised Psychotherapist for Employee Assisted Programmes: -
Bupa, Aviva, AXA, WPA and Vitality Health
Location - Alfold (Cranleigh, Surrey, GU6) Office
Individual counselling near Cranleigh. Couples counsellor near Billingshurst. Relationship, Alcohol Addiction, Binge Eating Disorder, Single-Session Therapy in Loxwood. Bereavement therapy near Horsham in Alfold.
My counselling office is located in Alfold. There is side gate access directly to the 'counselling room in the garden'. There is one step into the conservatory with access gained through double doors.
Convenient driveway parking is available.
Please note that this office may not be suitable for those with cat allergies. If this may cause an issue, please let me know and we can discuss the possibility of meeting in a location nearby.
(Update January 2025: Transparency - there is a local building development so some machinery background noise can be heard).
My Alfold, Cranleigh, counselling office is accessible to surrounding villages in Surrey and West Sussex. These include Godalming, Hascombe, Hambledon, Milford, Shackleford, Petworth, Loxwood, Loxhill, The Haven, Dunsfold, Lakers Green, Bramley, Shalford, Shamley Green, Rudgwick, Colgate, Rusper, Warnham, Witley, Wormley, Chiddingfold, Ellen's Green, Cranleigh, Ewhurst, Plaistow, Ifold, Northchapel, Haslemere, Busbridge, Kirdford, Wisborough Green, Billingshurst, Albury, Broadbridge Heath, Five Oaks and Slinfold.
My counselling office is located within a half a mile of the A281 Alfold Crossways junction which connects Horsham and Guildford.
Bus services:
Bus route 42 from Cranleigh to Guildford via Hascombe, Farncombe and Godalming. There is a bus stop located within a 10 minute walk from the office (Alfold Crossways).
Bus route 69 operates via Billingshurst, Adversane, Codmore Hill, Pulborough, Arundel and Worthing and this bus stop is a 2 minute walk from the office.
(Please do look at the bus timetables prior to contacting me as, like many village locations, they are not always hourly).
Contact
Contact from website
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Email Contact
Email harmoniouscounselling@gmail.com
I will email you back the same day if a working day. Please be rest assured emails are confidential and only seen by me.
Telephone Contact
Call 07941 305511
If I am unable to answer please leave a brief message informing me of your enquiry along with your name, telephone number and when it is a good time for me to call you back.
Please note:- If your number is not familiar to me, and you do not leave a message, I will not call you back as I am aware this could be dangerous without knowing your individual situation.
My voicemal is confidential and your message will only be listened to by me.
Text / WhatsApp Contact
Text 07941 305511 to make an appointment.
If I am in an appointment I may not be able to answer you straight away yet I will get back to you as soon as I am able to.
Not ready yet?
If you feel you are not quite ready to commit to an appointment please do message me. I have been where you are now and I am happy to help with your transition.
Counselling is a journey and in the words of Carl Jung "I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become." What will you choose to become?
KATE HEAVEY BA (Hons) BACP (Accredited).
LOCATED IN GU6, SURREY. COUPLES COUNSELLOR BILLINGSHURST, BRAMLEY, PETWORTH AND HORSHAM (WEST SUSSEX). LOSS AND BEREAVEMENT THERAPY HORSHAM AND CHIDDINGFOLD. INDIVIDUAL COUNSELLING CRANLEIGH WORKING WITH ALCOHOL ADDICTION / ALCOHOLISM AND BINGE EATING DISORDER. NATURE THERAPY AND OUTDOOR THERAPIST OFFERING WALK TALK AND THERAPY SURREY. ONLINE ZOOM PSYCHOTHERAPIST. EXPAT THERAPIST. COUNSELLOR NEAR CHIDDINGFOLD AND RUDGWICK. ONLINE ZOOM AND SIGNAL COUNSELLOR. TELETHERAPY / TELEPHONE COUNSELLING. AI FREE COUNSELLING ZONE.
