Kate Heavey BA (Hons) FdSc BACP (Accredited) - Individual, Couple and Online Counsellor and Psychotherapist. Currently offering online counselling and psychotherapy via Zoom, WhatsApp, Skype and the telephone only.
The aim of this page is to give you a small insight into possible feelings and symptoms that you may experience as a result of a loss and/or bereavement and for you to know you need not suffer alone and relief is available.
Grief is the loss or death of something and it is a reflection of the connection you had, i.e. person, relationship, dream, job loss, etc., and YOUR LOSS COUNTS as you are in a grieving process - a marriage breakdown brings the loss of the relationship; a job loss brings the loss of a pay cheque and the environment, the loss of an idea means hopes and dreams are shattered; loss is so much more than death. What is really important to acknowledge too is that we do not even have to have loved or liked as it is about our connection and attachment, i.e. could be love or hate; like or dislike, met or unmet, etc.
My own concept is 'if we attach we lose' and, to me, all counselling is about a loss and grieving process.
The loss or bereavement can be expected or it can be a shock and temporarily shatter your world. Many factors will affect your mourning and grieving process such as age, who the person was to you, how attached you were (or not) or religious beliefs. If a death is involved, the way the person died can have a huge impact on your grieving process. Please know there is no 'right' or 'normal' way to experience grief and your experience will be as individual as your fingerprint.
Feelings of loss can include :-
Yearning / pining
Emancipation (feeling set free)
Physical symptoms of loss can include :-
Hollowness in stomach
Tightness in chest / throat
Oversensitivity to noise
A sense of depersonalisation ('I walk down the street and nothing seems real, including me').
Weakness in muscles
Lack of memory
There can be a sense of denial....you know the person is not in your life anymore, or has died, yet you find it impossible to accept you will never see, touch or hear their voice again which can be extremely hard to come to terms with.
Although grief is a universal natural reaction to loss it can be stressful and painful. Counselling provides a space for you to talk freely about what is happening for you without being judged or 'moved on' with no expection for you to quickly 'get over it'. I offer you space to connect and process your feelings as I walk beside you in your journey.
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Elisabeth Kubler-Ross states "the most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of those depths." Inspirational!
KATE HEAVEY BA (Hons) BACP (Accredited) - COUNSELLOR IN WOKING PROVIDING COUNSELLING IN RIPLEY AND PSYCHOTHERAPY NEAR GUILDFORD, SURREY